In 2003, the Yahoo online personal ads brought Greg Murphy and See-Ming Phan together. The two emailed back and forth a few times before their first date over dinner. 13 years later, Greg proposed to See-Ming on his birthday with a ring tied to their dog Brisket’s collar.
The engaged couple thought back to when they had visited The Otesaga Resort Hotel with Greg’s family and decided the venue in Cooperstown, New York was perfect to host their wedding guests. To help bring their vision to life, they hired California-based Amy Nichols Special Events, who, early in the planning process, presented them with the perfect invitation suite from Bella Figura with black and copper foil that helped set the tone of the day. “We wanted it to be fun and recognize the location but not feel like it was a theme party,” See-Ming explains.
Wanting their wedding looks to be special, the grooms went to famed British tailor Thomas Mahon for their bespoke suits. Greg wore a dark navy wool jacket with a subtle red checked pattern and gray trousers, and See-Ming wore a gray wool jacket with a herringbone pattern and dark navy trousers. Both wore orange ties to pull their looks together.
On May 12, 2018, they had planned to hold the wedding outdoors, but the weather forced them to move it indoors. “We served gin and tonics to guests before the ceremony because why not?” Greg says. The two walked down the aisle with Greg’s mother to the Clinton String Quartet’s beautiful music. And then See-Ming’s close friend Doug Booher officiated the service with readings from members of Greg’s family. “The indoor ceremony turned out wonderfully with a quieter and more intimate setting that set the perfect mood.”
Once officially married, cocktails were served on the covered porch, followed by dinner in the main dining room. Floral arrangements on the tables by Forêt Design Studio were a highlight of the space. The meal was delicious, but “we were most excited about having a pie bar instead of the usual wedding cake,” See-Ming says.
The grooms’ siblings gave hilarious toasts during the reception, and for more entertainment, their band New York Players kept the party going all night. The newlyweds had their first dance to “You Are the Sunshine of My Life” by Stevie Wonder. And a highlight of the night was when Greg’s father took to the dance floor in his wheelchair. “He wasn’t necessarily planning on doing this at first, but once the band got playing and with some helpful encouragement from others, [he] was shaking it up with everybody and having the time of his life!” See-Ming remembers.
After a while, the party was moved to the hotel basement bar and grill, and it eventually trickled out to the outdoor fire pit for a cozy end to the perfect day.